Verse of the Year
2007-2008
“What is impossible from a human perspective is possible with God.
Luke 18:27
Belhaven College 2007-08 Verse of the Year
Belhaven College Kickoff Dinner
August 2007
Dr. Roger Parrott, President of the College
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Introduction
If we had
lived in London 220 years ago, we would have said that God's calling in the life
of William Wilberforce was absolutely impossible.
Despite it
being the most educated and sophisticated city in the world, it was a culture of
hopelessness, where economic opportunity was tightly held in the hands of just a
few, where disease and sickness was more normal than feeling healthy, and where
labor abuses of both adults and children were the standard.
It was a place
of horrible cruelty—including regular public gruesome executions. It was a
society of vulgarity where crude jokes and nasty language were so expected that
those who did not join in were considered untrustworthy.
It was a city
where alcoholism was rampant in order to escape the harsh reality all around
them and where cruelty to animals makes today's news reports of dog fighting
look civilized. It was a place where prostitution was so accepted that 25% of
the unmarried women in London were prostitutes, with their average age being 16
and many much younger.
It was a place
that put little value on the dignity of life, except for the most privileged,
and it was into this culture God called William Wilberforce to speak up to end
slavery. Impossible!
It seems
evident to us today that slavery was totally wrong, but in 1780s England slaves
were considered a commodity. So in their misguided view, suggesting an end to
slavery would be like saying today we should stop using cars and trucks because
they hurt the environment. And that is not going to happen, no matter how much
evidence is brought forward. You don't ban the most important commodity that
fuels an economy.
But what is
impossible from a human perspective is possible with God.
Even the
courts of England had ruled that slaves were not people, but a commodity. On
September 6, 1781 the slave ship Zong left the coast of Africa headed for
Jamaica with 470 slaves packed into the hold. It had already been cruising the
coastline for weeks picking up more Africans at each stop; and so, by the time
they set sail, the slaves they held were already sick and dying. Chained
together in dark decks just a few feet apart with no room to sit up, there was
not enough space for all of them to lie on their back at once. Then as the boat
creaked and rolled, the entire group of men tore their flesh on the bare boards
of the multi-stacked and unventilated hold and the disease took hold quickly in
that the unthinkable environment.
Because the
captain miscalculated the course to Jamaica and the voyage was becoming labored,
the Africans were dying at a faster rate than normal; and he was concerned that
at the three-month mark 60 slaves had died. The Captain knew that he was paid
nothing if a slave died in the voyage; but if there was a problem beyond the
captain's control that caused him to lose his cargo, then the insurance company
would pay him in full for his losses – about $4,000 in today's economy for each
slave.
So calling on
a maritime law that allowed the captain to jettison cargo in order to save the
ship, he brought the sickest slaves to the deck and threw them overboard to the
waiting sharks that always followed slave ships in their crossing to take
advantage of the dead.
When they
finally reached their destination, the Captain claimed that the 132 men he
drowned were necessary because they were running out of water, although when
they arrived in Jamaica they had over 400 gallons in reserve. The insurance
company protested the loss and took the case to court, where, after hearing all
the testimony, the Chief Justice said the ship's captain did no wrong because
throwing the slaves into the sea was no different than if he'd done the same
thing with a cargo of horses.
And into this
culture, God called William Wilberforce to abolish slavery. But what is
impossible from a human perspective is possible with God.
So this young
legislator, being thankful God put him in the center of the government that
influenced the whole world, boldly took on the most powerful economic engine of
that day. In May of 1787 he made his first speech in Parliament calling for the
end to slavery – and he was soundly rejected with many more defeats to come as
the road blocks were overwhelming and relentless.
The impossible surely seemed just that.
Several years into his campaign to end slavery, with a long string of defeats behind him,
Wilberforce was discouraged and close to giving up when he received a letter
that gave him fresh hope.
The letter was from his long-term mentor, John Wesley, who was very near death. In fact, this
letter was the final letter Wesley wrote, and in it reenergized the haggard
Wilberforce with these eloquent words:
“Unless God has raised you up for this very thing, you will be worn out by the opposition of
men and devils. But if God be with you, who can be against you? Are all of them
together stronger than God?
O be not weary of well doing! Go on, in the name of God and in the power of His might, till
even American slavery – the vilest that ever saw the sun – shall vanish away
before it.”
With a fresh
call of God through his friend Wesley, on April 18th of 1791, William
Wilberforce took the floor of Parliament at 5pm to make, what he assumed would
be his final attack to bring the legislative body to their senses and vote for
change. After his four-hour speech and subsequent debate, at 3:30 am the vote
was taken to abolish the slave trade -- 88 yes, and 163 no.
But what is
impossible from a human perspective is possible with God.
And so, as God
often does, He uses methods that surprise us to accomplish His desires. Instead
of parliament, politics, and power, God used the arts to turn the impossible
into the possible when—with a picture, a poem, and a pendent captivated English
culture and turned the tide of public opinion.
The picture
was a drawing of how on the slave ship Brookes, Africans were literally stacked
into the hold of a ship for crossing the Atlantic, and the preciseness of the
artwork shocked Londoners about cruelty of slavery.
The poem was
from William Cowper, one of the most popular writers of the day, and his
seven-stanza prose exposed the hypocrisy of a nation that calls itself
Christian, allowing slavery.
Is
there, as ye sometimes tell us,
Is
there one who reigns on high?
Has he bid you buy and sell us,
Speaking from his throne the sky?
And a pendent showed the image of a kneeling African chained hand and foot, with the words “Am
I not a man and a brother.” Being created by Josiah Wedgwood, who had founded a
company on the cutting edge of quality china; it was especially popular and worn
all over London long before anyone had thought of wearing ribbons to identify
their cause.
God was making possible what seemed impossible from a human perspective, because the Lord
opened their eyes, people saw the filth all around them and especially the
abhorrence of slavery. And although the wheels of God's justice do seem to
grind slowly for us, but they always grind fine.
Over 20 years
after Wilberforce was first called of God to this battle to end slavery,
abolition passed the House of Commons. And three days later the one called to
lead the fight, William Wilberforce died.
What is
impossible from a human perspective is possible with God, and more often than
not, God accomplishes his way through the least likely means – I think, so there
will no question who should receive the glory.
As I read the
biography of Wilberforce this summer, I couldn't help but think about Belhaven
College trying to create an entirely new model for higher education within a
culture that is not calling for change in how students are educated and sees no
reason for faith and values being part of the educational process.
We are up against a complacency that has become blinded to the way higher education is
enslaving the minds of the next generation – teaching them to understand the
world with no consideration of who created it.
So in American colleges and universities this fall, the 15 million undergraduates enrolled
will:
- have their courses taught by a growing army of faculty who
will take joy in belittling the Christian faith and the cause of Christ.
- have all of their courses taught form a totally secular
viewpoint because the law does not allow even Christian faculty to interject
their faith perspective into the classroom discussion.
- not have a single course at a secular university this year will be founded in biblical truth.
- be taught there is no unchanging truth, and further will be taught that the mark of an educated person is not simply tolerance or acceptance
of ideas, but that you must celebrate all perspectives as equally valid – except
of course, Christian ideas.
- at secular institutions define spiritual success as creating
what a national institute calls “safe spaces” for spiritual dialog – because no
specific religion is promoted and all are accepted.
- not learn to understand how God designed and ordered the
world and will not learn their discipline from a perspective of God's desires.
- not have an advisor counsel them to consider their calling or
purpose through God's eyes. They will not even be taught the life lessons of
the Bible, much less the reasons Jesus teaches us to live as He does.
- have few opportunities for school sponsored spiritual growth,
although half the freshmen across this country report they are seeking
opportunities to grow spiritually. And following the recent lead of Harvard,
the faculty will reject any effort to put a meaningful study of religion into
the curriculum even though students want to ask the big questions of life.
- not have faculty, residence hall staff, coaches, or other
campus employees pray with them, except at the risk of a lawsuit, if they have a
family member die, break off a difficult relationship, or is searching for a
life directing answers this year, ,
- at secular campuses not be required to attend a chapel
service, write a paper to articulate a Christian worldview, or take a course on
the biblical expectations of balancing the workplace and family. Any Bible
course offered will be taught only as literature, and watched closely by the
administration to assure it stays at that level.
- find their residence halls co-ed in many places, but in all,
there will be no standards of propriety or sexual behavior. Binge drinking will
be rampant. The language of the majority of coaches will be vulgar. And the
vibrant pockets of Christian faith available on these campuses will be huddled
in anticipation of the next attack.
- be taught to prepare for life, with absolutely zero
perspective on eternal life.
Like Wilberforce facing a storm of culture against him, this is the culture of
American Higher Education into which God has called Belhaven College to do the
impossible.
UCLA research tells us that 52% of evangelical freshmen will lose their faith by the time they
graduate. Or to play that number out, over three-quarters of a million freshmen
students will have their faith broken by higher education this year by the very
school they are trusting to prepare them for life.
And you know what bothers me the very most? The Church doesn't seem to care. And so
evangelical parents and pastors continue to send our young people to these
schools because of the prestige, cost savings, sports team loyalties, social
connections, or tradition – and then turn right around and ask if there is any
hope for our country?
Changing the American system of Higher Education seems impossible. But you know what -- so
did abolishing slavery in 1780s England.
I don't know if God wants to lift American Higher Education out of the filth and muck in
which it is stuck, but I do know our clear calling at Belhaven College is to
create a new model of a Christ-centered college.
Like a small lamp burning in the vastness of the dark, God is doing something remarkable
through this little college in Mississippi – what is impossible from a human
perspective is possible with God.
Impossible vs. Possible with God
What we think is impossible, contrasted with what is possible with God, is shown so many times
in the Bible, and one of the best illustrations is found in the story of Jesus
walking on the water.
Right after Jesus fed 5,000 men, along with their families with only a handful of food, the
Bible tells us in the book of Mark:
Immediately after this, Jesus made his disciples get back into the boat and head out across
the lake, while he sent the people home. Afterward he went up into the hills by himself to pray.
During the night, the disciples were in their boat out in the middle of the lake, and Jesus
was alone on land. He saw that they were in serious trouble, rowing hard and
struggling against the wind and waves.
About three o'clock in the morning he came to them, walking on the water.
As a framework for looking at this impossible challenge God has given us together at Belhaven
to set a new pattern for what Higher Education should be, I would like to lift
three contrasts from this story.
Let's look first at how it was impossible
from a human perspective:
1) The disciples didn't anticipate the
storm.
These disciples were not a bunch of naive guys who didn't know how to do things. They
were smart sailors and fishermen. They understood the waters, they knew how to
read every subtlety in the weather, and they knew how to handle a crisis on the
sea. Their collective wisdom for how to control a boat in the worst of
circumstances was about as good as you could get. These were real pros.
But they not only didn't see a storm coming that night, but Jesus sent them out there knowing
that a storm would come. And I would assume they set off in full confidence
that there would be no troubles ahead, because Jesus told us to go.
And we too, face impossible situations, not because we are unwise, inexperienced, or blind
to our circumstances. But Jesus sends us out on the water, because he knows the
storm is just where we need to be.
Two years ago we had a wonderful kick off dinner and the best start to a school year in all my
years of doing this. But on that night, had we known Hurricane Katrina was
coming just a few days later, we wouldn't have had our dinner or our normal
start of school activities. We wouldn't have had our athletes on campus early, a
big bunch of new people hired, or our buildings all painted up fresh. We
couldn't have handled the anticipation of what was to come, had we known it on
that night.
But neither on
that night would we know that when all our costs of Katrina were added up, from
damage, lost revenue, additional scholarships and all the other expenses, the
total would be $2,110,000. Just as we wouldn't have known that after we totaled
up the special fund raising, the cost cutting, the government grants for our
students and all the other income, it equaled nearly to the dollar our Katrina
costs of $2,110,000.
We are not failures because we don't anticipate every storm. Jesus knows what is always
before us and will do the impossible when we trust Him.
2) The disciples felt very alone in the storm
Jesus had sent them on this journey, and now, they were in big trouble. They were far from any
land, it was dark, and they couldn't see where they were going; and although
they were rowing hard and rowing together, I'm sure they felt abandoned in the
middle of this storm.
It was a time when they desperately needed Jesus. But in their circumstances they didn't
think there was any way He could help them, and they would have to get out of
this with their own God given ingenuity, muscle, skill, and determination.
And this is exactly how we often feel at Belhaven, when the battles we face become
overwhelming.
- We are swimming in a sea of college marketing that makes it seem impossible for us to get noticed.
- We are up against overwhelming competition from wealthy schools in Orlando, Houston, and Memphis.
- We have so few high worth donors, and so many needs yet unmet.
- We squeeze every nickel in the budget and know one major slip can put us into a deficit.
- We have a growing number of students coming out of high school under-prepared and short on motivation to learn at the college level.
- We are a tiny speck in the prestigious world of academia.
We often feel alone in the challenges we face as a College. But Jesus sent us into this storm
of impossibility on purpose.
3) The disciples forgot who Jesus is when
the storm came up. These
disciples had just spent the entire day hearing Jesus teach to (without a
microphone) at least 15,000 to 25,000 people. And if the Sermon on the Mount is
an illustration of what the PowerPoint was like that day, it must have been an
incredibly inspirational time. The day had to be filled with life changing
ideas and memorable gems of insight.
But not only that, when the crowd got hungry and had nothing to eat, Jesus had taken what
little food they could find, prayed over it, and then used it to feed the entire
crowd, and even enough for left-overs.
So by the time they got into that boat, this band of disciples were running high on emotion and
understanding the remarkable nature of Jesus. And I'm sure well into their
journey they were retelling each other the events of this amazing day.
But once they got into the storm and the wind and seas came up, they collectively forgot all
they had seen, heard, and understood just a few hours before and they forgot who
Jesus is.
Today, the future of Belhaven College is
ominous – but then, the future is always ominous! When we look ahead at
our challenges of enrollment, shifting adult markets, carving out a new online
program, living with too tight of a budget, not to mention the complexities of
every single student God brings to us, we say “yikes” because the unknown is
always overwhelming. And looking ahead the storm seems gloomier than we've ever
seen it before.
But this is not the first time we've crossed these waters in a storm. And when we remember how many times Jesus has come to
us in the storm, we say “wow” as we recall how often He has turned the
impossible into the possible.
From our human perspective, we can't see the storm coming, don't expect Jesus to fix the
trouble, and we forget that He's done it many times before. But when the
impossible becomes possible with God, we see this situation from a totally
different viewpoint.
So now let's look at the same story from the perspective of how the impossible becomes
possible with God:
1) Jesus prepared
spiritually.
We usually measure our effectiveness in God's work by what we get done on our to-do list.
But we see here, as Jesus did so many other times, spiritual preparation was
critical before the next thing was attempted.
After a day of
preaching and miracles, you'd think some time to just relax would be in order,
but Jesus knew that time talking to His Father was what he needed most – showing
us again how important prayer is to our lives.
How often do we get spiritually drained in our effort to do good things for God, and don't
take the time to restore? More often than most of us would admit out loud I'm
sure.
But if we expect what is impossible from a human perspective to become possible, we must
put prayer and spiritual restoration before action.
I couldn't be more proud of our report this past spring from the Southern Association of
Colleges and Schools. We had a little celebration two weeks before school was
out, but the longer it sinks in, the more I'm amazed by the glowing report we
received from SACS.
It really was impossible from a human perspective. Because to be as cutting edge as we are in
the way we operate, have as much breadth as we cover in our programs, run as
financially tight of operation as we do, and have a mission so counter the
philosophical ideas of mainstream Higher Education, the SACS reviewers could
have easily kept us in the straight jacket they have made us wear for years.
As I reflect on the process, amidst all the endless hard work, I think two unique things were
going on during our 2+ years of preparation.
First, so many people were committed to prayer about the SACS effort. This was our entire
future on the line, and we joined together to ask God to take it and give us His
outcome. And as I told you in the spring, while I sure didn't like the very
critical report of ten years ago, I was just as thankful for that bad report a
decade ago as I was for this outstanding report now –because it was God's
outcome.
That was what we needed then, and this is what we so need now to unleash our opportunities.
And second, there became a point in our process where we moved beyond making all the
improvements and measuring our quality as a requirement in order to pass the
test with SACS, but rather, to become the best we could for the glory of God.
SACS may have been the tool God was using to structure us, but the Lord's
measure was the only one that mattered in the end.
When the impossible from a human perspective becomes possible with God, it begins with
spiritual preparation.
2) Jesus saw they were in trouble
The disciples got into a boat at the end of a long day to get to another town across the
water. Jesus, tired and knowing his need for time in prayer, went the opposite
direction up into the hills. The Gospel of John telling this story says that he
was about 3 or 4 miles away from them. But when the storm came up, the
scripture clearly records, “He saw that they were in serious trouble.”
In the middle of the night, from miles away, with a storm blowing so hard they were scared to
death – Jesus saw they were in serious trouble.
The laws of physics apply to you and to me. But with a power that makes Google Earth on my
computer look like a stick drawing, Jesus could see past all the limitations of
the circumstances to look into their eyes.
MaryLou and I flew into Jackson late one night this spring, and one of the skycaps was our
student – a senior football player. We didn't really need the help since the
bags roll, but wanted to help him since he didn't seem to have any other paying
customers.
We hardly got out the first few lines of small talk about the flight before we could see in
his eyes that something was wrong. And like we had put out a hand to lift him
out of a sinking pit, he told us how he missed a deadline in the registrar's
office and had to tell his mother today that he wasn't going to be able to march
in the procession and receive his diploma.
He said she cried, and he cried, because all his family had planned to come in for the big
occasion, and now he had nothing to celebrate. I tried to figure out what the
problem was, but maybe since it was after midnight, he wasn't too clear, so I
told him to come check with me tomorrow.
In the morning, one short phone call to our registrar's office, who does such a
wonderful job generously serving our students, while also protecting us on all
our standards, figured out the problem, got a paper processed, and a cap and
gown was ordered and ready.
And watching unfold the contrast between his overwhelming storm, and the easy solution it was
for us, I thought of that great promise of Jesus, “If you sinful people know how
to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father
give good gifts to those who ask him.”
What seems impossible from a human perspective is possible with God because He knows when
we are in trouble. And even while we are consumed with rowing hard against the
waves, Jesus looks through the storms that surround us and is ready to act when
the glory will go to Him – because the solutions are easy for him, even when the
problems are overwhelming to us.
3) Jesus invites us to the impossible.
When Matthew records this story in chapter 14, he gives more detail about when Jesus came to
them, walking on the water:
Then Peter called to him, "Lord, if it's really you, tell me to come to you by walking on
water." "All right, come," Jesus said.
So Peter went over the side of the boat and walked on the water toward Jesus. But when he
looked around at the high waves, he was terrified and began to sink. "Save me,
Lord!" he shouted.
Instantly Jesus reached out his hand and grabbed him. "You don't have much faith," Jesus
said. "Why did you doubt me?" And when they climbed back into the boat, the wind
stopped.
Then the disciples worshiped him. "You really are the Son of God!"
When the storms of life are the strongest, and we get a glimmer that Jesus is coming, we
are relieved, surprised, and willing to do the impossible if he asks us. And so
like Peter, we may not only be glad he is coming to our boat, but we may step
out on the water with Him.
And we can risk the impossible WITH God, when we are completely focused on him rather than
the impossible around us. And that is the difference. Jesus was doing the
impossible walking on the water, and then Peter did too, UNTIL, “when he
looked around at the high waves, he was terrified and began to sink.”
You know, I stay fairly optimistic about overcoming the impossible with God, that is, until
the daily higher education news reports pops on my email about 5 o'clock every
afternoon. And then I am reminded of the impossibility of the storm and how
hard it is to keep up with other schools while also confronting the culture of
American Higher Education.
Just this past week's headlines included:
- Tarleton State University Receives $8.2 Million Boost
- Universities Install Footbaths to Benefit Muslims
- U.S. Universities Expand Overseas Efforts to Keep Global Edge
- Presidential Candidate Calls For Free Community College
- University of Louisville Set to Build a $2.5 Billion Health Science Center
- Massachusetts Governor Eyes Free Education
- Alum Wills $6 Million to Ohio Wesleyan University
- $200 million for new Catholic College to Teaching Orthodoxy
And like Peter, I can quickly get my eyes off Jesus, look at the storm around us, and
start sinking.
But when I fix on Jesus, and only Jesus, there is nothing we can't do it we take hold of His
hand as He invites us to the impossible.
Jesus didn't say to Peter, “stay safely in the boat and let me get this wind stopped first,
and then it will be okay for you to step out.” He didn't tell Peter, “better
wait a while until the waves calm down before you take on the impossible.” No,
Jesus invited him to the impossible and abandon the last bit of security Peter
felt in the boat to step onto the water with him in the middle of the storm.
Oswald Chambers says:
Let actual circumstances be what they may,
keep recognizing Jesus, maintain complete reliance on Him. You do not know when
His voice will come, but whenever the realization of God comes in the faintest
way imaginable, recklessly abandon.
It is only by abandon that you will recognize Him.
When was the last time you accepted Jesus' invitation to attempt the impossible? If you
can't remember, then it is time to get your eyes off the wind and waves, and
recognize who has called you.
Called to the Impossible
Tonight I want to briefly trigger your thinking in three arenas where Jesus is calling us to
the impossible.
1) We are called to the impossible together.
This summer at our annual meeting of the Lausanne Committee for World Evangelization held in
Budapest, we had speak to us David R. Young, the
managing director of Oxford Analytica, which works with the world's pre-eminent
scholars to advise most of the top corporations, organizations and
governments.
Even sitting
in 98 degrees in the non-air conditioned hall of the historic seminary where we
met, his analysis of the current global landscape
was riveting. And he challenged us to do with our ministries what they do for
nations and multi-national companies – to identify the stress points we face and
rank them as to the impact each would have on our work.
For instance, he said that from their analysis of the world the top two threats
are the possibility of Taiwan/China armed hostilities or a US strike on Iran.
Their third and fourth most critical point of world stress is flu pandemic
followed by a United States deep recession. The fifth most damaging threat is an
oil price shock, followed by a state collapse in Pakistan, a return to
protectionism, and the eight most dangerous treat is a dirty bomb.
So on the long flight home, I tried out his exercise and made a list of the
stress factors that I believe could most harm Belhaven College – or strengthen
us if they were resolved. And my priority rank order of what could damage or
help us most, came out like this:
- Adult and online enrollments
- Student customer service/care/retention
- The Church's lack of understanding Christian Higher Education
- Pricing ourselves out of the Southern market
- High School students not being prepared for college
- An individual faculty member disrupting our cohesion
- Some small problem growing out of control
- Governmental limitations on hiring our standard of faith
- An isolated racial incident
- Hurricanes in Orlando, Houston, or Jackson
- Security risks on campus
- Moral failure of a faculty or staff member
- The next advance of the University of Phoenix<
When I look at this list and think about how to fix it or avoid it, the list seems
overwhelming. But what is impossible from a human perspective is possible with
God.
Now let me ask it more specifically – which of the challenges we face, or the needs we have,
are too hard for God?
2) We are called to the impossible, in our relationships with each other.
To do the impossible with God it will take extraordinary working relationships.
It is not the waves outside the campus that make me fearful for our future, because God is
controlling them. But if we are not good stewards of the relationships inside
the campus, He won't calm the seas for us out there.
- I don't worry about our total agreement on mission, unlike
90% of the Christian Colleges who are still struggling over their mission focus.
- I don't worry about our theological commitments being clear
and our theological harmony being strong, because somehow God has allowed us to
know well who we are, but not be exclusive and judgmental in the process.
- I'm not worried about us capturing opportunities because we
have the right people with the right gifts gathered at Belhaven, and we have a
Board who understands the uniqueness of what God is doing here and is
opportunity wise, without being restrictive.
- I'm not worried about the money, because with the recent
changes we've made, we should be back on track soon with our revenue. And as He
has always done, God will send us the special friends we need who can make gifts
for the remarkable work of the Lord here.
- What I do worry about is strained relationships that will hold us back. I think my
concerns are justified because of how we have changed so significantly as an
institution during the past several years:
- We've gotten so much larger and it is no longer possible to know every employee.
- We've become stretched with everyone doing more than a
full time job as we handle the growth
- We're now so spread out that there are people here tonight some of you work with, whom you've never even met in person before because they work on a different campus.
- We've become more complex as the operational processes require more moving parts
- And we're had to be more fast paced because we are rowing against more storms.
When I evaluate the past year or so, I see our relationships trending toward being more
strained, and that concerns me deeply. Because if a steady rain of tension
creates trenches of mistrust that get too deep and create division, then
barriers of protection don't follow far behind.
The excuses of personality quirks or pressure demands don't hold up for justifying strained
relationships. And with SACS behind us, this is a very good time for us to
take a refresher course in how the Bible instructs us to get along with each other.
You know, there may be some places where the Bible is not clear in its direction about
what is the right thing to do, but relationships is not one of those places.
The scripture says:
Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. Love does
not demand its own way. Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it
has been wronged. It is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever the
truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and
endures through every circumstance.
When I look at all the issues that came to me during this past year, there are so many
wonderful and creative things I get to work with, but on the tough side, they
only come down to two issues – money or relationship tensions.
We have got to do better, not because I ask you to do it, but because it is biblical.
I'd suggest to us five guidelines for your relationships with each other and with students:
1) Get fixed what is already broken. If you have difficulty with someone now and
you know there is tension, go get it fixed and don't be satisfied until it is
fixed. If there is someone on this campus you can't work with because of
tension, you are a poor steward of the gifts God has given you, unless you're
willing to go work through it and get a fresh start with that person.
The best benchmark I know for evaluating whether a relationship is Godly is asking
yourself if there is anyone you'd feel uncomfortable praying with? If I broke
you up into prayer partners tonight, and your only prayer was, Lord, please help
me to not get so-and-so, then you need to go work out the tensions with that
person. And if they won't listen, then the Bible says, you take someone along to
help mediate.
2) Listen until you really understand. Too much I'm seeing folks having to guess what
others want or need, rather than having a relationship that allows them to hear
the other person's heart and not just their words. When there is tension, there
is more under the surface, and until you listen, until you understand what it
is, you'll never grasp what they are really saying.
I had someone come to see me last year who was very aggressive about a situation that was in
process, but when we boiled it down, the issue in their mind was really an
attempt to rectify something totally unrelated from the current situation –
which happened on a different campus 20 years ago.
Few tensions come to us in a vacuum.
3) Shoot straight with each other – carefully. We need a working culture that allows
us to be open, direct, and transparent with each other. We need to be able to
challenge, ask, and examine issues if we're going to get the best ideas out in
the open.
But that means different things to different people. Some of you naturally have a 44-magnum
style, so when you shoot it feels like a cannon and we don't hear you. Others
shoot straight and it is so quiet we don't hear you either. We have to be
trusting enough that we can work out differences directly with each other, but
always in the requirements of I Corinthians 13.
4) Don't systematize relationships. The bigger and the busier we get, the more we
are prone to creating systems so we can get more done. But in doing so, we are
straining relationships – between employees at times and especially with
students by creating systems to do what we should handle by just talking
one-on-one.
We have a screened in porch at home that sounded great for keeping the bugs away, but the
mesh collects every bit of dirt in the air. So I've been trying, without much
success to keep it clean. I used my big gas powered lawn blower on it, but that
mostly blew the dirt back into the screen so it could fall down again with the
next rain. I got an outdoor vacuum, thinking that might help, but it clearly is
not powerful enough for the job. So I rigged up a hose with a very high-powered
nozzle on it and sprayed it clean, and it looked great until it dried, and then
I saw it just moved the dirt around.
So this summer, I was considering what to try next, and I had a novel idea – I swept it
with a broom. And it was the cleanest it's ever been. And in our
relationships, we too can design all kinds of systems to try to make the work
easier, but more often; we just need to stay with the basics of talking to
people.
5)Don't start a weekend mad. Any good marriage counselor will tell you that one of
the most important things you can do in a relationship is to never go to sleep
upset at each other, even if it causes some late nights. Because if there was a
deadline for resolving issues, nothing can build up for too long before you
would have to deal with it.
But on a campus, you can have tension with someone for a very long time without
resolution – and that tension grows to suspicion and then mistrust, then it
doesn't take too long before your effectiveness is compromised.
But if you couldn't go home for the weekend without every tension being resolved, something
tells me we would be a stronger community.
Working relationships are not easy. They take constant effort, attention, and time.
But I know we could do much better than we are doing, if we would not be
satisfied with anything less than the biblical definition of love.
And in the fierceness of the storm Belhaven College faces as we cross this sea of Higher
Education, unless we are rowing together, we can't begin to expect Jesus
to come to invite us to do the impossible.
3) We are called to the impossible of balancing our ministry opportunities and our
life demands.
Every person here has a unique set of gifts
and a calling you bring to Belhaven. Each one is important if God is going to do
the impossible for us collectively, because sitting on the sidelines comfortably
waiting for God to do the impossible for us as a group is not going to move us
to the place the Lord has for Belhaven.
Instead, your personal calling needs to be
so clear that you're willing to have God invite you to the impossible.
Stepping out of the boat requires we take unsure steps, and you need to be looking for opportunities for God to do the impossible with your calling gifts.
- The great artist Michelangelo often prayed, “Lord, grant
that I may always desire more than I can accomplish.”
- Bill Bright, the founder of Campus Crusade the largest Christian organization in the world, used to ask for a middle seat on the plane, so that he would have two people to witness to, rather than just one.
- Our Bettye Quinn, an elementary school educator has created an army of teachers, who love to see children learn because she has modeled what it means to serve.
Your calling doesn't move into the impossible unless you get out of the comfortable boat.
In what we do, it is very easy to be busy
and pressed doing your work and adding value – but still never allow God to do
the impossible through you, because you don't seek more than you can handle.
Yes, we'll pay you if you fulfill the job description, but you'll never fulfill
your calling from God if you're satisfied with only that.
To fulfill your calling, you need to know
what it is, and then get past your comfort zone so that God can do the
impossible.
But there are two sides to our ministry
calling – and I don't think we talk enough about the second – and that is,
balancing our calling with the demands of our lives beyond College
responsibilities.
We are not NFL players who can block out
everything personal to concentrate for 3 hours on game day. Because the
Christian life doesn't work that way – allowing us to compartmentalize our
ministry from the rest of our life. You can't separate your work from who you
are – whether that is joys or struggles in the rest of life.
God calls people, not institutions. And God calls people not just to a task, but a task
within context of their complex lives.
God called Moses to lead slaves out from under the control of
the most powerful person in the world, but he almost didn't do it because of his
insecurity about a speech handicap.
- God called David to be the greatest leader ever, but he
diminished his effectiveness because of the tangled web of his personal life.
- God called Abraham and Sarah to have a baby when they were
100 years old to birth an entire nation, but instead they didn't want to wait on
God and created a divided family.
- God called Paul to plant tiny churches that would eventually
become the whole Christian Church, but his abrasiveness in relationships pushed
away those who could have helped him to do even more.
- God called John to be alone in exile so he could see Jesus
like never before, although I'm sure the loneliness was gut wrenching being away
from the seven churches to whom he wrote in Revelation.
The balance of your calling and your personal life is something that only you and the Lord can figure out, but you
won't be called to the impossible in one if you can't deal effectively with both.
I know that in this room tonight there are
people who are under tremendous stress at home, nearly at the breaking point.
- Some are facing issues with children that consume you.
- Others are battling health situations that have you turned inside out.
- Some have financial pressures that overwhelm.
- Others have stresses that have brought you to the edge of being emotionally drained.
But God didn't call you to Belhaven College
to do a job; He called you to the fullness of what your life has become. And he
wouldn't have put you here to fulfill this challenge to attempt the impossible,
if he also wasn't ready to do the impossible for you at home.
Step out of the boat, and fix your eyes on Jesus.
Conclusion
Now before I close, I know that leaders are
supposed to stand up and say THIS is where we are going and there is no question
about our direction. And sometimes, I've shared with you that type clarity for
the next steps.
But right now, I'll tell you transparently –
I don't know what tomorrow will bring.
Coming off the SACS evaluation, taking over
Orlando and Houston, beginning an online program from scratch, launching a
Master of Public Administration, forming a marching band, waiting to see if we
can buy Bailey Magnet school, and all the other things that are in flux, we have
about all we can say grace over.
So I don't know what tomorrow will bring.
But I do know:
- We must each be spiritually renewed if we are to be ready.
I do know:
- We must have solid working relationships that model
Christ like love if we expect God to calm the storm of higher education that
is likely to get worse before it gets better.
And I do know:
- We must each fulfill our individual calling and balance
that ministry with all else God brings to our personal lives, if we are
going to do this together.
When Peter stepped out of the boat, the scripture tells us:
Peter went over the side of the boat and walked on the
water toward Jesus. But when he looked around at the high waves, he was
terrified and began to sink. "Save me, Lord!" he shouted. Instantly Jesus
reached out his hand and grabbed him.
We don't know
what storms tomorrow may hold, but we know who holds tomorrow, and we know who
holds our hand.
And if we are going to step out of the boat, with the storm blowing around us, we have to
trust in the character of God to save us when He reaches out His hand.
And it is while holding His hand, what is impossible from a human perspective becomes possible with God.
In a moment Dr. Dolphus Weary, our friend, board member and President of Mission Mississippi is coming to dedicate this school year to the Lord, followed by our traditional singing of Bless Be the Tie that Binds, lead by Dr. Chris
Shelt.
But before they do, I've asked Derrick Burt to come sing a song I haven't been able to
stop singing to myself for months.
I tend to often pray through the songs I listen to, and this one, started as we faced
many questions leading up to SACS. As I've watched some of you go through
some very difficult challenges at home this past year, I continue to pray
it. And as I reflect on our future and the storms all around us as a College
I pray it even more.
Like the disciples, Jesus sent us off in this boat together
and told us to go to the other side. And so as its been, every other year
of our journey, I'd expect this year will hold some great surprises when
Jesus invites us to the impossible and seas are calmed. And there will be
other times when new challenges come up to make the storm seem stronger than
ever.
So in both the highs and lows of the year ahead – on campus
and at home - this is my prayer for you, and for me.